God at the wedding
Marriages in Israel – in the exceptional competence of religious communities. The state is not engaged. Is it good or bad? There is a point of view that the smaller the state climbs into a person’s privacy, the better. Such a point of view is quite nice, however, in case of marriage in Israeli, some citizens arise problems. Not further, as in February 2008, the Knesset discussed the bill introducing the Institute of Civil Marriages in Israel – by a majority vote, the bill was rejected.
If the bride and groom belong to the same community (at least formally), then there are no problems. Problems begin when it is not. Rejected bill was proposed by a party deputy "Our home – Israel": Her electorate largely make immigrants from the USSR and from the post-Soviet space, among which the percentage of non-Jews is especially great.
So he and she – children of different nations – loved each other. Civil marriage is missing. You can try to join the religious community to which one of two. True, the transition to Judaism, in any case, in orthodox, requires effort and time, and rabbis, especially orthodox, usually do not consider the desire to marry a sufficient basis for circulation. What to do them? I mean not rabbis, but in love.
In addition to those who would have experienced a religious marriage procedure, if it were not obviously rebelled, there are people with fantasy: they have no formal obstacles, but for them a religious marriage is completely unacceptable, they perceive it as violence – and this also happens, though infrequently. What to do so people?
One of the answers – do nothing: and without registration well. And if they still want to make their relationship? Especially since this is not only psychological, but also quite pragmatic causes.
There is a simple way to solve this problem, simple and moreover allows you to combine pleasant with useful. And this path is sea. The state recognizes the marriage concluded abroad. Fine! Romantic trip to ferry from Haifa to close Cyprus, materially affordable almost every one will decorate the beginning of your family history and will remember for life. Of course, except for the case when the number of your marriages is so great that everyone does not mention. From the memory may be a name, face – but night! But stars! But the smell of the sea! But the moonwalk on the wave! – such things are not forgotten. If you are an impressionable person. You can, of course, prefer to Moscow, Kiev or Los Angeles, but then without the lunar path.
So, the marriage in Israel is not unified and extremely diverse. Each Jewish community, every Christian, every Muslim has its own traditions, their marriage ceremonies. There are both Bahaev and Druz ..
From this motley diversity of tradition, we choose Judaism and will be more further only about him – not about the marriage of Israel, but about marriage in Jewish.
Good matter marriage will not be called?
First about theological prerequisites. Based joke: "Good matter marriage will not be called". The answer to the question is whether the marriage is really a good deal, as well as the answer to the accompanying question, whether sex really is a good thing, not so obvious. The answer is rooted in understanding the nature of man and its place in the world.
Here is Lion Nikolayevich Tolstoy in "Craceser Sonata" passionately, highly convincingly, with noble pathos proves that sex is disgusting. Buddhist formula: desire generates suffering, suffering generates death – it must be known to everyone. The Apostle Paul believes that the celibacy is much more preferable for marriage and marriage to be admissible only from the condescension to the weakness of the flesh, as a concession, as a forced compromise in order to avoid unbearable temptation: it’s better so than to get sick (1. 7: 7-9).
Meanwhile, Judaism speaks with all certainty: marriage and sex marriage – very good things. Moreover, this is Mitsva – the duty given to the person over. And if he does not fulfill her, then consciously opposes himself the will of the Most High. What is the very first biblical commandment, paradise, given just a man and a woman, and in their face all their descendants, all of humanity – Jews and non-Jews? "And God blessed them and God told them: Move and breed!" (Gen. 1:28).
And further: "And the Lord said to God: It’s not good to be a person one; make him assistant, respectively" (Gen. 2:18). Then the creation of a woman from the edge of the first person who combined two nature in himself: Male and Women, but this separation implies the future of unity – no longer natural, but the free unity of love. "Therefore, the man of his father and his mother will leave his mother, and she will go to his wife; and there will be one flesh" (Gen. 2:24) – Direct indication of the need for a marriage, out of Judaism, any concept of celibacy, no matter how reason they were argued.
How it’s done
The marriage ceremony is beautiful and emotionally saturated. With variations in different communities.
The bride and groom become under the marriage Baldahin – Hupe. Often, Tales is used as a canopy – prayer bedspread. In Sephardic and eastern communities, Hupes are established usually in the synagogue, European Jews (Ashkenazy) prefer to be not a ceiling on the shepherd, and the open sky. Hupa – a symbol of the house where the bride enters the bride.
First, under the hood goes the groom, accompanied by his father and the father of the bride. He becomes a face to Jerusalem, and in Jerusalem – face to temple grief. Then the bride goes – mother and mother-in-law accompany her. They bypass the groom (in some communities three times, in some seven), and the bride becomes to the right of him. All this – with burning candles.
Next is made – Kidishin. The root from which this word is formed means "holiness", "Department", "Dedication". Rabbi pronounces blessing over wine and blessing. Bride and groom squeeze out of the glass. The groom puts on the ring to the index finger of the bride’s right hand – now she is dedicated only to him.
Next stage of the ceremony – reading the ctuba. Ctuba is a marriage agreement in which the husband’s commitments are recorded towards his wife throughout the family life, as well as in the case of divorce and death. Ktuba signed by the bride and witness directly in front of the shepherd. Ktuba is a kind of female social package. It speaks directly about the possibility and conditions of divorce. Divorce is always trouble, always defeat. In legend it says that when a person is divorced for the first time, the angels cry. Whether they cry when it is divorced for the second time? If not, it means they waved at him with hand (wing). Jewish tradition, soberly understanding human nature, does not believe that the divorce is good, but chooses here between bad and terrible. Terrible – this is what human relationships can turn into if people have no opportunity to disperse. Everyone is well known to which troubles it can lead.
The Talmud says that a man has the right to give a woman a divorce because of the burnt breakfast. Commentators explain: if people come to mind to divorce because of such a trifle, it means that their marriage has long lost all meaning. But if the divorce is possible, then the women’s rights must be protected, it can not be just thrown into the street. I must say that in the Jewish world they never abused divorces, divorces not a rule, but the exception. Ideal was and remains a single and inner marriage in love. Tropro-steep bride around the bridegroom means three engagement: before birth (for they were created for each other), here and now in the future world. Estimation of marriage that does not leave place.
After reading the cube, seven blessings are pronounced. In these blessings, the relationship of two loving ("Gently loving") People, the creation of a new family is placed in a wide context of the opposition before the Most High, the creation of the world, creating a person, in the context of a large historical perspective. The holiday of these two standing now under the shepherd, it is thus the holiday of all the people, the whole universe, the holiday of the most Most High.
Here are the last two blessings:
"Give joy gently loving,
How pleased you in antiquity in the Garden of the Garden created by you.
Blessed you, Lord, pleasing the bride and groom.
You are blessed, Lord, our God, king of the Universe,
Warming and joy,
Bride and groom,
Celebration and bliss;
Love and Brotherhood,
And peace and friendship!
Lord, our God, may soon come off
In the cities of Judea and on the streets of Jerusalem
Voice of joy and voice fun,
Bride’s voice and voice of the bride,
And songs of pouring boys.
Blessed you, Lord,
Bridegroom with a bride!"
Writing the sky and the land comes to the wedding to please the bride and groom.
The bride and groom drink wine from the same gland that at the beginning of the ceremony – the symbol of their life unity, love, readiness just drink together a bowl of joy, grief, joint work and worries. After that, the bridegroom breaks the glass to the foot in memory and grief about the destroyed temple.
Now they became husband and wife. All congratulate them.
Then young people retire for ten minutes in a closed room. This solitude is a symbol of their intimate proximity. They have something to say to each other. It is accepted that the husband treat his wife with something delicious. In Ktubu, he undertakes to feed his wife, and now I do not put it off in a long box, it starts to fulfill its obligations.
And then the feast starts and the fun, the swing of which produces a strong impression on a person. Usually weddings are very crowded – dozens, or even hundreds of guests. At the orthodox ceremonies, men and women fell separately. Hasida dances are full of not only sparkling fun, but also religious enthusiasm, so you dance literally before you fall. The newly-made husband is planted on the shoulders or a chair (as it were for the throne), raise and dance with him.
Celebration continues for a whole week. In essence, not so much, because the young life is ahead.